Mark the statements that you can easily do.
Talk about having sex together with my clothes (and lights) on (e.g. sitting at a table at lunch)
Plan in advance what I do and don’t want to do
Say “yes” only when I want to
Say “no” if I change my mind
Explain my decision if friends or parents ask why
Feel good about my decision even if I break up with my partner or my family doesn’t agree
Be sure it is my idea (not something I’m being pressured to do or am doing stay in the relationship)
Be sure I am not going to feel guilty afterward
Say “touch me here,” “like this,” and “not like that”
Have sex that relieves stress, not cause stress
Say things to my partner like “I think I might have herpes,” or “I think I might be pregnant”
Buy my own condoms without being embarrassed
Be the one to put on the condom correctly, myself, every time
Stop myself from having sex if we don’t have condoms
Take myself to get tested and treated for sexual infections
Take myself or ask my parents to take me to get birth control
Use my birth control correctly and get it refilled on time, every time
Feel comfortable deciding what to do if we get pregnant
Turn to a parent or a close friend if I need help
Feel good about my decisions, not ashamed
Total the number of statements that you marked: __________
If you don’t feel comfortable, don’t do it.
Just because you may have done it before, doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it.
This takes hard work and a commitment to protect yourself above anyone else.
This requires a level of maturity, honesty, and communication that is very difficult for most teens.
You deserve to have sex that feels good and doesn’t cause physical or emotional pain. If it hurts, don’t do it.