Safety is Non-Negotiable:Condoms are Required for any Sexual Contact

If you choose to touch other people, prioritize and protect your safety by using condoms each and every time you have any kind of intimate genital contact. 

“Condoms are like toilet paper”©

It’s about hygiene (like using toothpaste, showering, or wiping your rear end).  It is never about love, trust, claiming to be a virgin, or how long you’ve been with someone.  They should be used for all kinds of genital sexual contact, not just intercourse.

Take responsibility.

It is YOUR job to put the condom on and to do so correctly—ask your doctor for instruction if you’re not absolutely sure how to do it right.  (That’s right.  Women should be in charge of putting them on.  It’s your body that could get pregnant or catch a life-threatening disease.)

There shall be no naked penises in your neighborhood until your wedding night.

Sexual fluids can kill you. 

When you are truly ready to take a bullet & die for someone, you may stop using condoms. 

How to use condoms correctly


  1. Make sure the condom is made out of latex or polyurethane (“natural” or “lambskin” condoms don’t protect you from viruses like HIV).
  2. Check the expiration date (never use an expired condom; they are more likely to break).
  3. Make sure the wrapper doesn’t appear damaged in any way (or like it’s been in someone’s wallet for 5 years).


  1. Pinch the air out of the tip using 2-3 fingers (about 1 inch from the tip) to allow room for ejaculation fluid; if you happen to allow an air bubble, it can “pop” or break.
  2. Place the condom on the tip of the penis with the roll-side facing out.  Don’t let go of the tip.
  3. With the other hand, roll the condom to the very base of the shaft.  Then you can let go of the tip.


  1. Make sure he grabs the edges of the condom at the base of the shaft while he’s still hard to avoid any leaking or spilling of semen near the vagina.
  2. After withdrawing and moving far away from you, he can remove the condom and wrap it in tissues.  Do not flush it down the toilet (unless you are best friends with a plumber).
  3. You should urinate after intercourse to help prevent a urinary tract infection.
  4. Once he’s cleaned and dressed (at least with underwear), he can come back and snuggle.


If you are not using hormonal contraception and think the condom may have broken or leaked, consider using Plan B (emergency contraception) within 2-5 days to reduce the risk of pregnancy.  It is available without prescription if you are 17 or older; otherwise, your doctor must provide a prescription for it.


Using a condom is not easy.  It takes skill, confidence, communication, and a willingness to have the lights on (to be able to read the package).  If you’re not comfortable doing this, you’re definitely not ready to have sex.  If you are, be responsible, use them properly, and feel good about your decision to protect yourself.